Tea Party Talks: My Opinion on Bittersweet Lolita


Before we even start, can we just establish that this dress is beyond adorable?

Welcome once again fairies and cheshires!  Today I shall be tackling one of the most controversial issues in the Lolita Fashion Community.  Bittersweet Lolita.

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As we all know there are several sub-styles of Lolita Fashion.  These range from broad, well known ones — sweet and gothic for example — to the more obscure and narrow ones — like gurololi and sailor.  However, despite all the various styles, can’t all seem to agree on whether Bittersweet is a “thing” or not.

Truly, if you ask me, it hardly matters.  If you think of yourself as a “bittersweet lolita master” then that’s fine.  Moreover, if you think that bittersweet is just a fancy term for sweet lolita in black then that’s cool as well.  As long as you are happy and not shaming or insulting others for their own personal preference — which really has nothing to do with you — then go ahead and think what you want to think about this topic.

Even still however, I am not opinionless — despite popular belief.  Personally, I do not think that bittersweet is really a “thing”.  Why you ask?  Well I’ll tell you in just a bit!  But first, grab yourself a cup of tea, get comfortable, and let’s have a chat over tea!

Bittersweet dresses are beautiful.  There is no denying that.  Really, all lolita dresses are stunning.  However, the way you can really define a Bittersweet dress is a little too narrow.

Of course, there are other sub-styles that are exceedingly narrow as well.  Let’s take Sailor as an example.  Sailor lolita dresses can only be catogorized into the Sailor style when they have the certain “Japanese school uniform” type of top, are minimalistic, and have a sailor hat.  They also tend to traditionally follow the color scheme of blue, white, and red.  The blue makes up majority of the coordinate with the red and white to compliment it as accents.


This narrow window of what can be considered a Sailor lolita coord may make me seem like a hypocrite for using the explaination that the requirements for a Bittersweet coord are too narrow.  However, the key difference between the two lies in the color palettes.  While it is required for Bittersweet coordinates to contain large amounts of black and plenty of soft pastels to give it a “sweet” vibe, Sailor coordinates are not confined by the same color rules.  Sailor lolita coords can range from misty blue colors to deep, forest greens or to even bright reds so long as the shape of the dress resembles that of a traditional sailor outfit.

However, this issue of narrowness in the Bittersweet sub-style is not the only reason why I personally don’t recognize Bittersweet Lolita as a proper sub-style.  My second issue would be the vagueness of the sub-style.

Personally, when I think of the word “bittersweet” I think of dark brown tones.  Colors that are usually related to dark chocolate or semi-sweet chocolate come to mind.  As a result, when I first heard of “Bittersweet lolita” I instantly thought that this referred to coordinates that were heavy on the chocolate tones or chocolate motifs.  I thought this for a really long time and I only recently learned that that’s not what Bittersweet is.

This is more of a personal grievance rather than an actual issue, but really, the entire “debate” on this topic is all about personal preference.

Whether you’re into the small, obscure sub-styles of lolita or prefer the main three, I hope you all enjoyed this little chat over tea.  I would adore to continue this Tea Party Talk with all of you in the comments, so be sure to tell me your opinion!  All I ask is that you be respectful towards all the people in the community and avoid insulting or otherwise putting down other people with a differing opinion.

Thank you all so much for reading!  Please continue to express all of your lovely selves through any clothing you wish (so long as it’s not attacking others)! ^_^

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