Tea Party Talks: Why Halloween is The Best Holiday

Halloween has always been a favorite holiday of mine….

Well…. maybe not always but it did quickly grow on me in recent years and has become one of my favorite holidays.

To some, this may come as a surprise being that I absolutely despise anything scary. I have never watched a horror movie ever and I never ever plan to watch one. Just the trailers for them on YouTube are enough to send me running for the hills. Heck, I still think that Disney “The Princess and the Frog” animated movie is scary. In short, I’m just a big scaredy kitty.

However, none of that spoopy stuff is enough to scare me away from this awesome holiday! After all, there are so many other things to enjoy besides scary, axe wielding maniacs! And here, I’ll tell you all about some of my favorite Halloween festivities in hopes to convince some of my fellow scaredy kitties on why this holiday can be enjoyed by all!

That being said, I will be approaching this is a way that will keep in the theme of the rest of this blog.  Therefore!  I will not be including any of those normal Halloween things such as pumpykin picking or carving.  Instead, I shall be presenting more of the little details that I have found and personally enjoy a lot, or, if they are a more common thing, then I will tie it into a personal theme of mine and connect it to J-Fashion/Alternative Fashion or anime culture in one way or another.  Oh!  And surprise, surprise, all of these things have somehow ended up being fashion related.  I wonder how that happened.  Hmm…

Haha, well, anyway, I hope you enjoy my rather obscure list of the reasons why I personally find Halloween to be one of the best holidays ever!


1) Dressing up is Fun!

rilakkumakigurumifront__51792.1431617531.1280.1280No matter how old you are, you have to admit, having a socially acceptable day (though, with the way I dress this doesn’t exactly apply) to play dress up is amazing.

Whether you are in it for the nostalgia of playing dress up as a kid or the fun of getting together with a group of friends to do a group costume, there is loads of fun to be had when it comes to dressing up on Halloween.

Another cool thing that I find with dressing up for Halloween is that it can allow people who are into alternative fashion (goth, lolita, fairy kei, punk, ect.), but have never had the courage to make the leap and wear it on the daily, a chance to have a “safe day” to try out the fashion and perhaps introduce others to it.  This does of course come with some negative things, such as it implying that this fashion style is a costume.  The answer to whether this is true or not will vary from person to person, however, I personally believe that while it can be read this way, I think that it’s better that people can be offered a day where they can express themselves in a way that makes them feel safe and comfortable rather than they be driven away from the fashion entirely in fear of what others will think.  Of course, I do think it is wrong for people to wear these fashions on Halloween just to make fun of those who wear it on the daily, but that is a completely different thing.  To me, everything ultimately boils down to reasoning. If you want to wear lolita or some other fashion on Halloween because it makes you feel comfortable and safe, then that is all that matters.  At the end of the day, all that matters is that you feel good about yourself.

Whoo!  Ok, that was a lot.  But hey, all this talk about alt fashion serves as a great transition into my next point!

2) Mainstream Department and Clothing Stores Cool Clothes and Alt Fashion!


I don’t care what anyone says.  Department stores are cool.

In case you didn’t know, I am a very, very small person (I’m just a little taller than 4’10”).  As much as I complain about this, there are several benefits to being this height.  One of them being that I can shop in the children’s section of stores as well as some stores specifically meant for children.  I find these places to be the ultimate jackpot for weird, kitschy, and even some alt fashion clothes.  For example, I went to Target the other day and found this really weirdly cute, tulle slime skirt (shown above).  It perfectly matches a lot of my Halloween socks and does a great job of incorporating more green into my outfits.

Now, I know what you are probably thinking, “but I’m a normal sized person who doesn’t fit into kids clothes”.  Never fear!  For there are cutely tacky stuff to be found for you too!  Just check out this cool sweater from Walmart!


I sadly do not own this awesome sweater (because I live on an island and the Walmart here does not have these in stock), but it does just go to show you that tacky things like this can be found for everyone!

But hey, even if you aren’t into this kind of weird stuff but still into alt fashion, you can still find something for you!  You can find lots of cheap knee-high socks in the Halloween section of Target or Walmart.  Given, they do look pretty costume-y and only come in basic colors (white, black, ect.), but beggars can’t be choosers, right?  And even still, a little altering (snipping off the bad lace, bow, ect.) can go a long way!


Aaaaand that’s a wrap!  Short list today.

It’s not a picks so I can get away with it!  Haha!

Anyhow, I do hope you enjoyed this list and I hope it has inspired you to get more into the Halloween spirit this year, or, at the very least, get you thinking about visiting your nearest department store soon, hehe.

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Beijing’s Picks: Lolita Dream Dress Edition

Prints like these are what keep me from declaring myself a sweet lolita.

I mean, yes, I am completely all for sweet, candy prints, and yes, I do like my bright, bubble gum pinks.  But still, I cannot resist the mysterious and spoopy allure of gothic prints.

However, I digress, the topic on what my fashion identity is must wait for another post, (possibly the next one?  Wink wonk) for today, I bring you yet another Beijing’s Picks!  As you already know, today’s topic is dream dresses.

If you are a member of the lolita, or possibly any other J-Fashion, community, then you are probably familiar with the term.  But, for you little buns that just so happened to stumble into here, a dream dress is a term used by lolitas to describe a dress that is high up on their wish list.  It can be compared to a car collector having a particular brand or style of car that they have their eye on and is saving up for.  Or it can be likened to an avid anime fan searching the internet for a particular figurine.  Really, it can be applied to anyone with a passion for something.

Here, I have compiled a small list of my top three dream dresses.  Well, sort of.  What do I mean by that?  Well, like many lolitas, or people into fashion in general, I have certain preferences on prints, styles, motifs, and colors.  I personally have a soft spot for any of Angelic Pretty’s “wonder” prints (ie. Wonder Party, Wonder Queen, Wonder Memories, ect.) or any dress with Alice in Wonderland motifs.  This, of course, is only natural.  However, it would be rather boring to read a favorites list where all the items were the same.  So, I created a short list of rules for myself to follow when compiling this list.

  1. The prints must all have different motifs (for example, two dresses with a cookie print is a no-no)
  2. I cannot own the print in question (I only own one brand JSK(jumperskirt) anyway so this is not difficult.  (I am just a lil’ baby sorry >~<))
  3. Only dresses (JSKs and OPs(one pieces)) are allowed. (This is because I am way too obsessed with jackets, coats, and capes…)

And that’s all the rules!  Real simple right?  Great!  Now that we’ve established all that, we can finally begin!


3) Secret Hospital for Dolls in Black by Baby the Stars Shine Bright


As I have already stated in the introduction to this blog post, prints like these are what keep me from going full sweet.

Halloween has always been a favorite holiday of mine.  Despite never watching a horror movie in my life, and having no desire to ever watch one, I still absolutely adore the creepy-cute things that come out in mainstream stores (Macy’s, Target, Walmart, ect.) during that specially spoopy time of the year.  I adore everything from the little black cats to the slightly disturbing creepiness of porcelain dolls.  And this new JSK by BTSSB perfectly reflects that.

The eeriness of the deathly pale dolls set against the spoopy cityscape of the ideal “Halloweentown” perfectly contrasts the cute ruffles and curls adorning the dolls.  With a simple style and shape, this JSK does an excellent job at putting the focus on the beautiful print.  Such a dress is truly a work of art.

2) Cherry Berry Bunny in Pink by Angelic Pretty

img_5554From BTSSB to AP, black to pink, gothic to sweet, new to old, this dress and the last one could not be more different.

This adorable little cherry bunny OP was release in 2009 (which basically means I will probably never own it…) and is basically my whole branding in a dress.  Cherries?  Check.  Buns?  Check.  Pink?  Check.  Well, it looks like AP beat me to the punch here.

While my style does tend jump around more than an excited little bun bun, I do always find myself back where I started with the cute, fluffy pink frills.  This dress represents everything that I hope to be.  A cute, fluffy, and happy bun bun.

1) Wonder Cookie in Sax by Angelic Pretty


Picking this beauty out of all of AP’s beautiful “wonder” prints was probably the most difficult decision in my entire life.

Alice in Wonderland, or Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland if you want to be all formal, has held a special place in my heart for a very long time now.   Alice in Wonderland (the animated one) is my favorite Disney movie, Lewis Carrol’s Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland is my favorite book ever (yes, I have read the original novel), and, as you may know if you read my blog post on why otome games and anime shouldn’t mix, “Alice in the Country of Hearts” is my favorite otome game ever.  So, really, it would only be natural that I would be attracted to the absolutely stunning and adorable “wonder” dresses done by AP.

It took me quite a while to decide on which dress was my favorite.  After all, they are all beautiful, and if not for the rules I set in place for myself, all the dresses on here would be “wonder” dresses.  However, after much thought, I finally settled on Wonder Cookie OP in sax.

While this is not exactly the most wonderland inspired dress made by AP, I do believe that this OP is the one that best captures the look of Alice’s dress.  Furthermore, I think that the little cookie buttons are absolutely adorable and quite accurately represent the cookies shown in the Disney film.  I don’t particularly like Alice too much (I am more of a Cheshire sort of girl), but this dress makes me want nothing more than to blindly follow a bun down a rabbit hole.


And that’s it!  Whoo, well that was quite the journey.

You know, I never exactly realized how hard my style is to define until now.  I guess that’s what happens when you actually sit down and create a visual representation of the things buzzing around in your brain.

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this list!  Why don’t you tell me what dream dresses you got your eye on in the comments?  I look forward to reading all about them!

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Tea Party Talks: My Opinion on Bittersweet Lolita

Before we even start, can we just establish that this dress is beyond adorable?

Welcome once again fairies and cheshires!  Today I shall be tackling one of the most controversial issues in the Lolita Fashion Community.  Bittersweet Lolita.

*cue dramatic music here*

As we all know there are several sub-styles of Lolita Fashion.  These range from broad, well known ones — sweet and gothic for example — to the more obscure and narrow ones — like gurololi and sailor.  However, despite all the various styles, can’t all seem to agree on whether Bittersweet is a “thing” or not.

Truly, if you ask me, it hardly matters.  If you think of yourself as a “bittersweet lolita master” then that’s fine.  Moreover, if you think that bittersweet is just a fancy term for sweet lolita in black then that’s cool as well.  As long as you are happy and not shaming or insulting others for their own personal preference — which really has nothing to do with you — then go ahead and think what you want to think about this topic.

Even still however, I am not opinionless — despite popular belief.  Personally, I do not think that bittersweet is really a “thing”.  Why you ask?  Well I’ll tell you in just a bit!  But first, grab yourself a cup of tea, get comfortable, and let’s have a chat over tea!

Bittersweet dresses are beautiful.  There is no denying that.  Really, all lolita dresses are stunning.  However, the way you can really define a Bittersweet dress is a little too narrow.

Of course, there are other sub-styles that are exceedingly narrow as well.  Let’s take Sailor as an example.  Sailor lolita dresses can only be catogorized into the Sailor style when they have the certain “Japanese school uniform” type of top, are minimalistic, and have a sailor hat.  They also tend to traditionally follow the color scheme of blue, white, and red.  The blue makes up majority of the coordinate with the red and white to compliment it as accents.

This narrow window of what can be considered a Sailor lolita coord may make me seem like a hypocrite for using the explaination that the requirements for a Bittersweet coord are too narrow.  However, the key difference between the two lies in the color palettes.  While it is required for Bittersweet coordinates to contain large amounts of black and plenty of soft pastels to give it a “sweet” vibe, Sailor coordinates are not confined by the same color rules.  Sailor lolita coords can range from misty blue colors to deep, forest greens or to even bright reds so long as the shape of the dress resembles that of a traditional sailor outfit.

However, this issue of narrowness in the Bittersweet sub-style is not the only reason why I personally don’t recognize Bittersweet Lolita as a proper sub-style.  My second issue would be the vagueness of the sub-style.

Personally, when I think of the word “bittersweet” I think of dark brown tones.  Colors that are usually related to dark chocolate or semi-sweet chocolate come to mind.  As a result, when I first heard of “Bittersweet lolita” I instantly thought that this referred to coordinates that were heavy on the chocolate tones or chocolate motifs.  I thought this for a really long time and I only recently learned that that’s not what Bittersweet is.

This is more of a personal grievance rather than an actual issue, but really, the entire “debate” on this topic is all about personal preference.

Whether you’re into the small, obscure sub-styles of lolita or prefer the main three, I hope you all enjoyed this little chat over tea.  I would adore to continue this Tea Party Talk with all of you in the comments, so be sure to tell me your opinion!  All I ask is that you be respectful towards all the people in the community and avoid insulting or otherwise putting down other people with a differing opinion.

Thank you all so much for reading!  Please continue to express all of your lovely selves through any clothing you wish (so long as it’s not attacking others)! ^_^

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