We all have a “type”. As much as we try to deny it, we all have a certain type of personality that we are romantically attracted to. May it be cheerfulness, dominant leadership qualities, or a certain shyness, all of us have a set of characteristics we think of when imagining our dream partner. Here, I will be sharing what qualities I look for in a partner.
As an otome game player and fangirl fairy myself, I can say that when I play otome games I natrually gravitate towards guys that exhibit qualities that I find attractive. It’s much easier for me to get attached to a character that’s my type, and that in turn makes it easier for me to appreciate the game. I am a person that has a tendancy to prefer characters over plot which, obviously, directly effects what I enjoy; whether it be anime or otome.
The idea for this blog post was inspired by 레 몬 . Her blog post was very well done and she is an amazing writer. I sincerely hope you enjoy reading this and hopefully learn something about me or maybe even about yourself as you read this.
Not unlike most people, I tend to be rather quiet when I first meet people. If I don’t know you very well and I am not purposefully trying to put up a “I am polite and nice” face, I would rather not initiate a conversation. The only exception is if I find you to be an interesting person and I want to learn more about you, but otherwise, I would rather stay in my own little bubble. Furthermore, I don’t enjoy small talk and find it pretty awkward. Awkward conversation plus an already awkward me is not a good combination. However, if someone else is the initiator I would be glad to talk!
You know the 😆 emoji? Yea, that describes my personality majority of the time when around people I am comfortable with. I like making cheesy, terrible jokes and hearing about funny stories. I like fun, playful humor that usual counts as being cheesy enough to make over a hundred orders of extra cheesy nachos. To those who know me well, I almost always seem to be on a constant sugar high. Though, it wouldn’t be wrong.
As nice and cheerful I can be, I am actually quite moody with intense and sudden mood swings. I find my mind set and opinions of things to totally flip upside-down in a matter of minutes, and sometimes my actions and thoughts don’t always match up. At all. I can also easily be set off by small things. For instance, the other day I ended up stabbing a wall with a fork because I ran into it. I have a hole-y wall now. Great.
As someone who is one hundred percent Asian and has grown up in a society where if you have even the slightest shred of self-confidence you are branded as arrogant, it is somewhat odd to be as almost totally uncaring about others opinions — about me — as I am. Don’t get me wrong, if I am given good critisim then I will take it to heart, and I do enjoy praise, however, if someone chooses to dislike or hate me for being me then that’s something that I couldn’t care less about. If you don’t like me for being me, then sweetheart, that’s a you problem. Unless it’s an actual problem that is causing harm to either other people or myself, then I’m real sorry, but I actually really like me the way I am and if you don’t, well, that’s not my problem. However, this also leads to some problems since my pride leaves me unable to simply backdown in a debate. Furthermore, my pride also causes me to hide things from others with thoughts that I can fix it myself. Huh… Maybe I am arrogant.
To me, seeing my partner blush is the cutest thing in the world, and I am not beyond using “dirty” methods to see such a sight. I like to coddle my partner just as much as I like to flirt and tease them. I personally prefer to be the one protecting than being protected. In other words, I would rather be the prince than the princess.
My Dream Partner:
I like people who have an air of mystery around them. People who hold an air of detachment from this world are interesting to me and this opens up windows for me to come out my bubble a bit and talk. Daydreamers also bring up interesting ideas and thoughts that open up a whole new type of conversation. I would much prefer only a couple deep and meaningful conversations with my lover over a hundred meaningless conversations, and a mysterious daydreamer can easily provide that.
As I have already addressed, I am a rather… difficult person to be around — to put it lightly — so to have someone who is willing to be patient with me is a big thing I look for in a partner. As much as my pride wants me to appear as anything but a “damsel in distress”, I am also human and sometimes need to be saved as well. Having someone who is observant enough to be able to tell when I’m lying is also a huge plus because then I would be caught before I truly fell off the edge and swallowed alive by lies.
People who have something that they are extremely passionate about are extremely attractive to me. Listening to someone I like talk so passionately about something they love — even if I don’t really care for the subject — makes my heart swell.
As I have already addressed, I enjoy coddling my partner, and seeing the shy, cute blush on their face is the thing I live for. I admit to being a complete tease and a true flirt, so I think a shyer person would be the best fit for me.
Bunta is an absolute sweetheart that really represents all that I look for in a partner. He is always trying to care for you in any way he can even though he is sweet, little cinnamon bun that is new to love. He also has a knack for being able to tell whenever you are lying from paying endless attention to you. Furthermore, his childish nature and passion for photography are truly adorable and extremely attractive to me.
Well, I guess it’s official, my standards are way too high.
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